Promise

Whether I can or cannot let it go, I promise to be my husband's good wife n our precious son's good mother.

I will definitely fulfill my role. Because they are also the love of my life.

6 months into my marriage, 4 months into my pregnancy, 2 months to owning a house and starting a family of my own.. From bf to hubby, from miss to mrs and now to mummy. This is how fast time flies..

Our wedding was held on the 3rd October 2010 at GoodWood park hotel. Looking back at how we met, our courtship days, our phonecalls & dates that we hope it never ends.. arguements, fights and making up.. 3 years 11mths.. and now we are stepping into another phase of our life. ~Marriage~




Our wedding was filled with fun, laughter and some tears. Tears of happiness.. I remembered how my mum teared when she was covering me with the veil. That moment. How my dad said to my mum asking her not to cry and that it's a happy occasion. The huge smile on my dad's face, the tears on my mum's face, their little princess has grown up and that she's leaving her nest that she had been with for the past 24yrs and moving on with her life with her soulmate.



My eldest brother, whose face was also beaming with joy. I simply can't forget the look on his face and the comment that he make when he saw his little sister all dolled up ready for her big day. 你看， 明慧今天很美喔！ 很像公主！真的很像公主！ He behaved as though i'm his daughter that is going to be married. =) My second elder brother, even though he did not say much, but i know he's feeling really happy n busy because he's snapping pictures all the way as my mum keep saying 来跟妹妹拍照！来帮妹妹拍照！ =)




My husband, who teared while reading his vow to me, silly him.. but i feel so touched.. the games that my sisters played on him, poor him, but i do have fun while watching the playback on the video. Haha.



This is my family. There are many ups and downs. But i am happy and thankful for everything.

At the same time, not forgetting my dear friends. Especially my dearest friend since secondary, Huizhen, who is there with me the whole day. Even during my pre-wedding photoshoot. My relatives, classmates, my ex-coll, whom i know attended my wedding and given me n my partner their most sincere wishes. I am reali indeed love by many.



I may not have alot of friends, but those i know, i know for sure they will be there with me throughout my life..




Celeste, Huizhen, who cheer me up and listen to me when i am down..
Caroline, for the many many hand-made cards.. showered with love..
Jean, who specially bake an oreo cheesecake during my bday.. sweetness~
My Family, who do little things that i know they love and care for me...
Adrian, my partner, my soulmate, who showered me with endless tender love, care and putting efforts in trying to be his best.


Thank you for everything.. =)

Wedding ~ take 1 year to plan ~ 1 day event ~ result ~ bountiful of blessings, love, fun and tears.

marriage is;

a social, religious, spiritual, or legal union of individuals. This union may also be called matrimony, while the ceremony that marks its beginning is usually called a wedding and the married status created is sometimes called wedlock.

it also may serve:

(i) to establish the legal father of a woman's children;
(ii) to establish the legal mother of a man's children;
(iii) to give the husband a monopoly in the wife's sexuality;
(iv) to give the wife a monopoly in the husband's sexuality;
(v) to give the husband partial or monopolistic rights to the wife's domestic or other labour services;
(vi) to give the wife partial or monopolistic rights to the husband's labour services;
(vii) to give the husband rights over the property of his wife;
(viii) to give the wife rights over the property of her husband;
(ix) to establish a joint fund of property, a partnership, for the benefit of the children of the marriage; and
(x) to establish a socially significant ‘relationship of affinity’ between the husband and his wife's brothers.

in the christian views.... marriage is...

Jesus described marriage as a relationship, a union, so intimate and real that "the two become one flesh." As persons, husband and wife are of equal value. In truth, they are one. Finally, Jesus added his emphasis on marriage being God-made and lifelong:

Have you not read, he replied, that at the beginning the Creator "made them male and female," and said, "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh"? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate (Matthew 19:4–6, Mark 10:6–9).

Marriage, especially marriage between believers, is often analogized to a picture of the Trinity. Though a woman and a man are separate individuals, in Christian marriage they become joined by God as one flesh in a manner analogous to Adam and Eve, who were distinct persons though literally created from the same flesh (Genesis 2:23-25,Matthew 19:4-6, Mark 10:7-9, 1 Corinthians 6:16, Ephesians 5:30-32). The relationships — (a) in the Trinity, (b) between husband and wife, and (c) between Christ and individual believers — are analogous to each other. Each of these relationships points to the unity of individual believers and the Church with Christ and with the Father. Christian marriage is portrayed as the epitome of mutuality. Neither spouse owns her or his own body; that body belongs to the other spouse, and to them both jointly( 1 Corinthians 7:4).

All major Christian groups take marriage to be normal and proper, to be "held in honor among all" ( Hebrews 13:4). Biblically, weddings are described as times of joy.

now... marriage is between 2 of us right? does it still comprises of other people? it's the matrimony of 2 persons, it’s husband and wife, not husbands and wives!! why do they just like to interfere so much??? it's out of respect that we tell them and keep them updated of what we have done... but not for them to say this can or this cannot... these are making me going crazy.. it's my wedding and i'll do it the way i want! if not i would rather put the wedding on hold! dammnit!! i don't have so much energy for all this!!

We want to get married.. We love each other and want to begin our next chapter of life together…

According to Paul's first letter to the church at Corinth in chapter 7 which he sums up in verses 8 and 9 as:

Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion (1 Corinthians 7:8-9).

So I will continue to plan for our wedding.. but please stop treating me as though I’m invisible…

yes... i'm being grouchy and grumbling...

and i think it will continue till i settle everything... one by one...