my best gf message me that she going to see the show flat with her bf.

i know the both of them since secondary school days... and they have been dating since then till now.. finally they are going to get married and settled down..

i was so happy when i saw the message.. i was so excited...

but subsequently she told me she's disappointed in the way he ask her.. there was no proposal at all, only the information of the house and financial plans .. and they never even talk about the topic before.. house.. marriage... only the parent's nagging.. . i guess the thing that got her upset is the fact that there was no mention of their future by him and then suddenly tomorrow they are going to see theshowflat. even though it may not be anything, but seeing a showflat isn't it as good as moving on to the next phase of life as a couple??

she was saying that for me at least he ask me before and talk to me.. that reminds me something... early this year we apply for the flat, why did we apply? who suggested it? marriage was suggested by me.. what about the house? i have very vague memories about it... the only thing that i can remember is him asking me, "what you think?", " so, do you wanna try to apply?" then the next thing i know is we applied and his mother was very happy.. but nobody know what the true reason behind this decision... i am.. of course very happy about us making the decision to get settle down and begin the next phase of life... but i am also upset over an issue that nobody know..

things can never be perfect... being an hopeless romantic there are certain things that i want it to be done in the perfect way show in tv serial.. but yet nothing is perfect... are there a procedure in doing things? or should everything in this world have a procedure? what do u mean by procedure? what do u mean by the right way? what is perfect?


remembered the time whereby i left work early to have a look at the showflat with my important half, i have mixed emotions... i'm excited yet hesitating.. should i just go ahead? i love him.. no doubts about it but at the same time, isn't the decision too hasty? after all we only know which other for probably less than a year at that point of time.. even though love cannot be measured by time but still what bout the understanding? nevertheless, we went ahead with the application, and well, we got it. During the period of waiting, i was always on theHBD website for the fear of our ideal unit got taken by the others.. well what's mine is mine.. in the end, we got another unit. We also had negativefeebacks about the flat saying the fengshui is not good, *sigh* to believe or not to believe? i'm not a believer of any religion or any tradition, if i do it, it's out of respect for the others and the religion/tradition itself. But my the other half is so affected by it, which make me upset too.BUt still, we went ahead with the thought that it's god's will, after all, who will be so lucky to get a god queue number at the first try? another reason is probably we can't wait to be married ba.. =D

flat will be ready in nov 2011, nice time har.. hope there will be no delay.. =)

recieved a surprise frm my darlin yday... a plush toy and my breakfast for today.. how sweet of him... =)

having a bad day at work yet he still think more about me.. trying to make me smile.. it's not like we have a huge fight and he want to pacify me.. i noe he care more bout me rather than himself.. and he always tell me that it makes him happy when he see me happy..

he knows what makes me happy.. he knows what i'm looking for..

i feel blessed...

thank you darlin =)

saw this on someone blog.... n decide to share with everyone....


DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, 'How do I know if I married the right person?' I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her, so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?' In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?' Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind. Here's the answer:

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner . You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit). Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact,it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU. People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.' Think about the imagery of that type of expression.It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TOYOU. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades.It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowlybut surely, phone calls become a bother (if they comeat all), touch is not always welcome (when ithappens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead ofbeing cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage,you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extra marital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessiveTV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying thatyou couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression 'the labor of love.' Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (suchas gravity), there are also laws for relationships.Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make' love. Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling.